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The Best Hug Ever

By Beth Demme

There’s something you should know about me. I’m a hugger.

I love to hug my children and my husband, but my hugging doesn’t stop there. If we’re friends and I see you at my child’s school, on the soccer fields, or in the grocery story, I’m likely to hug you. On Sunday morning, I go from one friend to another, hugging my way through the congregation.

Do you know what you have to do in order to share a hug? You have to choose to be idle for a moment.

A hug won’t work if either party is in motion.

If I can get the person I’m hugging to stay still, to hold the hug, for more than a nanosecond, I silently say a quick prayer. Although it’s brief, it’s usually a very deep and profound prayer, something theologically rich like, “thank you God for this friend.”

As one presidential candidate might say, I have the best prayers. I have the best words for prayers. Really, I mean, people are saying that I do.

Obviously, I’m being sarcastic. My prayer may not be deep or profound, but it is heartfelt. I hope my hug and my prayer communicate my sincere appreciation for the other person.

This may be one reason I’m so happy when I’m in Nicaragua. The women I’ve met there are big time huggers. Yes, it’s a hot and sweaty place, but that doesn’t stop us from sharing an important moment of idleness.

Hugging in Nica by Beth Demme

An important moment of idleness.

Sometimes the most important moment of the day doesn’t have anything to do with accomplishing a to-do list task. Sometimes a moment of being still brings the most joy and fulfillment to my soul.

Sadly, this is a truth I tend to forget.

I love having a good to-do list. There are days I create a list at the end of the day just to remind myself of everything I accomplished!

I tend to measure myself based on how productive I’ve been. I’m a classic Martha.

You know the story, right? Jesus went to “a certain village, where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. She had a sister named Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet and listened to what he was saying. But Martha was distracted by her many tasks.” (Luke 10:38-40)

Eventually Martha got fed up that she was the only one getting anything done. She turned to Jesus and said (more or less), “hey Jesus, would you tell my lazy, unproductive, do-nothing sister to get up off her rumpus and help me out!”

I picture Jesus smiling kindly and looking directly into Martha’s eyes as he answered her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing. Mary has chosen the better part, which will not be taken away from her.” (Luke 10:41‑42)

I can feel Jesus saying that to me. Can you?

I imagine Jesus looking directly into my eyes and saying, “Beth, Beth, you are worried and distracted by many things; there is need of only one thing.” He then extends his arms and invites me into

In that moment of stillness, I’m able to let go of every task and focus on the most important truth: I am loved.

And so are you.

What do you think? Are you a hugger? Do you love a good to-do list? Tell me about it in the comments, send me an e-mail, or find me on Facebook.

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