Prayer is the ultimate honest conversation. God is not a vending machine and prayer is not about putting in our order. Why do some people have an active prayer life? What do they get out of it? And talking to God is one thing, but what about hearing from God? Is it weird to hear an audible voice and know …
This episode of Discovering Our Scars almost didn’t happen. Steph and I pride ourselves on honest conversations and we tend to look for topics that have the potential to create discomfort, but friends, this topic made me really uncomfortable. This week’s episode is titled, “Is Steph Asexual?“ A few weeks ago, Steph and I released an episode titled “Love? Actually…” where …
Divorce is a deeply personal, life-changing event that can be hard to talk about. Neither Steph nor I have ever been divorced so we brought in my friend Christi Gray for this honest conversation. Christi is a lawyer who has specialized exclusively in family law (i.e., divorces and what happens afterward) for ten years. Christi brings not only her professional …
In episodes 35 and 39, Steph and I explored the 2020 Black Lives Matter protests and the reality of white privilege. In this episode, we check in on our ongoing learning. We have an honest conversation about why it’s important for white people to do this work for themselves (rather than expecting our black friends to do it) and how …
Some people can casually say, “I love you,” but for others, it’s an almost sacred phrase that is reserved for the most special of circumstances and people. Steph and I explore our experience with love—the word and the emotion. When I think of “love,” I think of the verse in 1 John that tells us, “God is love.” I also …
Virtue signaling generally refers to an empty act, but is virtue signaling all bad? We each have virtues that we deem important and sometimes we want to signal them. Plus, awareness is valuable and what seems like a meaningless gesture might bring attention that generates change. But then, what do we do when companies signal virtues we disagree with? Do …
Discovering Our Scars Podcast, Episode 69 How often have you heard someone say, “I’m a good person. I’m not prejudiced!”? Are the two mutually exclusive? Is our desire to label people good and bad at the heart of our inability to admit and address our prejudices? In this episode, Steph and I admit and explore some of our prejudices, where …
On January 6, 2020, rioters entered the U.S. Capitol in an attempt to overthrow the government and thwart the certification of the Electoral College results. We’ve launched into 2021 with words straight out of the history books—insurrection, sedition, coup, and treason. Steph and I have an honest conversation about how this event affected us. What is our understanding of what …
Six years ago Steph’s friend David began revealing to people that he is gay. In this episode, he joins Steph and me for an honest conversation about what that was like. Straight people never have to “come out” to their parents, declaring their attraction to another gender. When we step back and look at what our LGBTQ+ friends go through, …
A mentor once told Steph that her hobby and her job had to be two different things. On this episode, she and I have an honest conversation about jobs and hobbies. The dichotomy between the work you do for money and the things you do for fun is an old way of looking at things that doesn’t represent today’s lifestyles. …