Discovering Our Scars, Episode 129

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We continue our journey with Steph through her memoir, Discovering My Scars. Steph and I listen to Chapter 3 of the audiobook and discuss it. This chapter is about Steph’s first few hours in the mental hospital, when she was in a holding pen like an animal. We talk about some of the patients Steph was with and what it …


Discovering Our Scars, Episode 128

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Steph and I talk about our physical and emotional scars, but what are the steps we’ve taken to be able to say we love our scars? Do we love our scars? Why? Ratings and reviews are welcome, or you can leave a comment on the episode page at dospod.us. Click here to read more about the episode and access the show notes …

Discovering Our Scars, Episode 127

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In this episode, “One of My Twins is Transgender (with Lisa),” Steph and I talk with the mom of a transgender son. Lisa thought she had a son and twin daughters, but by age four one of the twins began to describe themselves differently. Now, Lisa has a son and boy/girl twins. She generously shares with Steph and me how …


Discovering Our Scars, Episode 126

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I joke that I am an easy “yes.” I start from “yes,” and I try to say “yes” whenever possible. Steph tends to ask questions and get information before saying yes or no. I admit that I’m a people-pleaser with a serious case of FOMO. Steph confesses that she once said no when a friend asked her to be a …


Discovering Our Scars, Episode 125

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My podcast partner, Steph readily admits she has a chip on her shoulder when it comes to men, but the reality is men have tremendous power. They make decisions that impact the lives of women in huge ways, often with very little input from women. In this episode, Steph and I discuss why we think men need to do more …


Discovering Our Scars, Episode 122

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Steph’s memoir, Discovering My Scars, is the inspiration for our podcast. For the first time, Steph and I listen to the audiobook version together and discuss it. This episode covers the Introduction and Chapter One. Steph introduces the story and explains her motivation for writing and sharing it. Then we are with her as she uses NSSI as a coping …


Discovering Our Scars Episode 105

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Sandy was just a teenager who loved her church. It was a place she felt accepted and celebrated. When a new youth pastor was hired, he saw Sandy’s love for the church and used it against her. He started grooming her for a long-term abusive relationship before her sixteenth birthday. When the abuse was finally discovered, the church moved the …


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Steph and I are joined in this episode by Steph’s high school friend, Megan. As high school ended, Steph could see that Megan was struggling with depression. Unknown to Megan, Steph was struggling, too. Steph tried to “fix” Megan, rather than working on herself but Megan wasn’t ready. They drifted apart for a few years. When they reconnected, they realized …



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Experts say that hate against AAPI (Asian American Pacific Islander) communities has risen during the COVID-19 pandemic. In this episode, Steph and I are joined by my friend, Dr. Su Wang. Su and I grew up together in Pensacola, Florida. Su says that during those days, she tried to assimilate into the White community and sometimes felt embarrassed by her family’s …



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What does your name say about who you are? In this episode, Steph and I have an honest conversation about the connection between name and identity. I talk about my ill-fated middle-school attempt to go by my actual name (Elizabeth). I also talk about the decision to change my children’s names when they were adopted. While their Russian names were …